Life is hard. Actually, sometimes it can be really freaking difficult. Sometimes you feel like you can never win— like everything is going to shit.
It’s almost like Life’s hired a hit on you. However, it’s either by the laziest hitman ever—or one who gets paid by the hour—because he only makes your life a little bit more annoying each day. Nothing major. That’s all it is. You’re not plagued by the presence of death— just small annoyances that build into bigger problems.
Luckily for you, I’ve curated a comprehensive list of little changes to make your special journey into void a little bit more bearable.
Don’t Be A Dick
No, really. Don’t be a dick. It doesn’t make you look cool, and I promise that it’s causing you far more problems than you think possible.
Seriously. Stop complaining. You look like an ass, and on top of that— it doesn’t serve anyone. If you’re actively complaining, you’re not taking action against whatever it is you’re complaining about. If you have something to complain about: Be proactive, and find ways to fix or mitigate your issue. If you’re complaining to complain (which is totally acceptable under the right circumstances), preface your complaints with that.
Take Responsibility For Your Shit
Contradictory to T-Swift’s newest single, no one makes you do a damn thing. You are responsible for your own actions and for your own emotions. If you don’t feel like you can control those now, look into different programs or workshops that can help you to develop personal accountability.
Your life might not be exactly what you want it to be right now, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t things you can appreciate. Life is about the journey, and it’s important to take moments to be grateful for where you are and what you have now. If you don’t practice gratitude now, you’re not going to appreciate it as much when you do get to where you’re headed.
Get enough ‘D’
…Vitamin D, you perv. If you’re like me—paler than a sheet of paper, and not a ghost— you’re probably deficient in Vitamin D. Why? Because sunlight terrifies pale people. It’s like we want to be Vampires, but are too afraid to make the actual commitment. Anyway, if you don’t see the sun as much as you should: at the very least, get your Vitamin D in either through food or a supplement.
Stop Talking And Listen
Sure, your monologue is probably important. However, if you’re having a conversation with someone— give the other person the time of day to speak. And while we’re at it: Actually listen to them. Don’t just listen to find another spot to talk. Wait until you have something meaningful to contribute.
Be Curious And Stop Making Assumptions
Riffing off of the above, be curious. Ask questions. Don’t bring your assumptions to the table. It’s okay to have them to a certain extent, but if your assumptions are stopping you from keeping an open mind: You’re being a dick.
Not Everyone That Treats You Poorly Is A Narcissistic Sociopath
Some people are just assholes. Sometimes it really is that simple. Just because your ex-boyfriend was an ass and things didn’t work out, that doesn’t mean he’s a narcissist. Even if he cheated on you— Does that inherently make him a sociopath and a horrible, terrible, no-good, very bad person who deserves to be castrated? No. It doesn’t. It doesn’t make him a good person, but the action of cheating doesn’t necessarily make someone the devil.
We paint our own narratives, and those filled with spite and hatred are the heaviest to carry.
Stop putting labels on people and situations because you want them to be worse than they actually are. That makes it a lot tougher for people who actually are dealing with those issues, and makes you seem like… SEE TIP 1.
It’s Not All About You
Life happens. Shit happens. People hurt you. And guess what? You also hurt other people. This part of life is not avoidable. Accept it, and move on.
You probably aren’t drinking enough water, if you’re like most people. Seeing as how our bodies are primarily water, you should probably remedy that.